Ep 110 - How to stop fighting the lesson and start receiving the remedy

WITH Nicole Barton

On the Secret Witch Show today, Nicole is diving into how our struggles, challenges, things going ‘wrong’, and even our trauma can become our remedies - and how we can reclaim our power and stop fighting that alchemy process. Sharing her own personal journey, she explores how we enter ‘remedy states’ each time we meet challenges - and how we have been conditioned to shy away from and avoid our darkness, which often leaves us (innocently) locked in that wounded state, ‘resisting’ the lesson. Instead, she shares how we can open to learning new skills to meet ourselves lovingly in our triggers, wounds and challenges, so that we can receive the gold from them.

Exploring how our gifts are found in our wounds - and how we can cultivate self-love, safety, vulnerability, and deeper intimacy with them in order to heal ourselves - this episode offers a transformative perspective of challenges as opportunities for growth. And it does this in a way that doesn’t also have us ‘bypassing’ our pain, but honouring and acknowledging it - aka truly healing it.

What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

‘Lessons’ are often to be found in all the things that go ‘wrong’ in our lives - our challenging experiences or traumas not met well in childhood often lead us to a cycle of suppression and fear of adversity
This can ‘lock us in’ to a remedy state that clouds who we are, leaving our scared, wounded inner little girl in charge of navigating our challenges - until we reclaim our power by welcoming and loving her, so that we can pause and go into find the gold in them
We assume that healing should be a quick fix sticky plaster that immediately solves our challenge - but really, true healing often involves a healing response that takes us back to the moment we experienced a soul rupture, so that we can revisit it and decide again - whilst we unsuppress whatever was suppressed. That moment is where our lesson is, which makes our moments of challenge opportunities for healing
People can often be our biggest triggers, but they are also ‘remedies’ and mirrors for us in our healing - that’s why Nicole has created the Secret Witch’s Apothecary Membership
We often need to create a sense of safety for our child to meet triggers - because for the Secret Witch, especially, this way of working is largely not something that’s been modelled. It requires us to learn new healing skills - like nervous system tending, true self-love and acceptance, and capacity to hold the tension and pause in our triggers - and these skills can take a little time, tenderness and love to learn.

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